‘Early-Marriage’ again?!

The 12 years old bride

What ?! This topic for the 2^nd time ?! Well, not to worry dear readers . It’s not like I’m going to tell you the same story twice . I just want to share with you concerning to the hottest issue nowadays ; I bet some of you already knew about . . . the 12 years old girl who was married to . . . hmm how old is the groom again ?

So , 12 years old . . . I have a little cousin who’s 12 . Yeah, I did say ‘little’ because she’s a little girl , a cute one but she’s more mature than any other school kids today . You would know what I meant if you have a chat with her . I could conclude that she’s like a 50 year old grandma trapped in a petite kid’s body . By looking at her , I wondered and still wondering how the hell someone at her age could get married happily – you should see the wedding photo , the girl was smiling like a whale .

As for me , when I was at that age I did have a love story ( Please don’t laugh , it’s true and I feel so damn embarrassed ) . But it’s not what you think it is . It’s just ; I had an admirer . He kept bugging me and told the others that he likes me . That’s just freaking stupid . We were 12 , man ! I didn’t expect this kinda thing’s coming . What I actually cared about at that time were only UPSR and playing . If you’re the same age as me , did you remembered the fun games such as cop tiang , teng teng  , polis sentri and doktor-doktor ( it’s actually a role-playing game , other kids usually play ‘emak-emak’ but we prefer this one ) . See ? 12 is the number of innocent children spending times on outdoor activities . What on earth has happened to the kids’ world ? The shocking news has ruined my childhood memories .

But then after I read more articles on the topic of the 12 year old marriage ; I came to understand a little bit . She caused a problem , what can I say more about these days major problem ; girls running away from home with boyfriends . Before this outrageous case, there was a school girl’s wedding on the news but she’s in between 14 to 15 as I remembered . Young teenage marriage is quite rare in Malaysia and some other countries . Of course , except for at the age of our grandmas’ before Merdeka .

For the kids out there , please enjoy your life as a kid . I do have a friend who’s having love affair with my senior when we were in primary school . As an ending , the boy left my friend crying on her school desk with broken heart . Me and the other kids were laughing at her secretly , yeah I know it’s mean but once again ; we were only a kid . And I tell you , nothing’s funnier than this love story . And nothing’s good came from it . 

Marriage Is Not For Me

Hey, long time no see. Whoa, whoa! Wait up! Don’t give me that unsatisfying-evil-looking face. I know it is a quite controversial title but that is not what I really meant. You should do the reading first.

Well, early marriage is quite trending nowadays. People keep debating whether it is good or bad for the society or the early-married person him/herself. Thus, I also wanted to share something with you on youngsters’ marriages topic since I found it pretty interesting yet bothering as there are quite a number of people I know held their wedding ceremonies in the early 20s! Or. . . should I say after SPM?

A few weeks ago; I think (I don’t really recall the date) my same-age cousin got married and almost everyone kept teasing me, “You’re next”. Are you kidding me? Oh, for those who don’t recognize me, I am only 20. And I was completely annoyed with those jokes. It is not funny after all. Thinking of marriage just freaks the hell out of me. 

Getting married younger than age 25 
dramatically raises the divorce risk.
Source:  http://facts.randomhistory.com

Some might not agree with me about the scary facts on marriage life. However, it is the truth you can’t deny. I would say I am somewhat a thinker – hell yeah I’m awesome! I think a lot concerning those topics that will change my future.

Since I was a kid, I want to be super cool just like my mom. She was a great learner and a splendid teacher/lecturer. If she is a comic character, she would be in Gokusen or Great Teacher Onizuka. But some people looked down on her just because of her unsuccessful marriage. It was not her fault getting married to a cheater.

But my mom is also one of the early-married women. She wore a wedding dress in her 23^rd, getting my sis the next year and finally I was born in the next 2 years. Then she was single again. I have no problems growing up without a father, I don’t even think he deserve to touch me. I once called myself an abandoned daughter as I have never experienced any fatherly moments with him. It goes different with my sis though.

See, this is what going on in the society. It is real. Princessly thinking young women might not realize it. They only could imagine a romantic life when they got married early just like the totally-a-failure movie Twilight. The whole wedding things scared me although I am in a serious relationship for over 2 years. Reality is no fantasy.

On top of that, I was a little upset about losing two or three friends or relatives after they became someone’s wife. They got married too early and I hated the idea. We can’t have fun together anymore. They are no longer those who I happened to know before. They changed. A lot. Then I wondered what if I’ll be just like them as soon as I decided to get married? What if I change too? What if I’m not me anymore? It is not about if the guy is the one in a million; it is in point of fact about me.

After a few minutes of silence, I stopped thinking regarding to the issue of marriage. There are more roads to be taken in the future. I will start to open my mind about it again but not too soon. I do admit I hate the idea of getting married too early but maybe those people have their own reasons. Just stop using “in the name of Allah” or “for Islamic reason” if you’re not really meant it.

Well, feel free to give me any feedback. Ciao for now~! (^_^)/