Hey, long time
no see. Whoa, whoa! Wait up! Don’t give me that unsatisfying-evil-looking face.
I know it is a quite controversial title but that is not what I really meant.
You should do the reading first.
Well, early
marriage is quite trending nowadays. People keep debating whether it is good or
bad for the society or the early-married person him/herself. Thus, I also
wanted to share something with you on youngsters’ marriages topic since I found
it pretty interesting yet bothering as there are quite a number of people I
know held their wedding ceremonies in the early 20s! Or. . . should I say after SPM?
A few weeks ago;
I think (I don’t really recall the date) my same-age cousin got married and almost
everyone kept teasing me, “You’re next”. Are you kidding me? Oh, for those who
don’t recognize me, I am only 20. And I was completely annoyed with those
jokes. It is not funny after all. Thinking of marriage just freaks the hell out
of me.
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| Getting married younger than age 25 dramatically raises the divorce risk. Source: http://facts.randomhistory.com |
Some might not
agree with me about the scary facts on marriage life. However, it is the truth
you can’t deny. I would say I am somewhat a thinker – hell yeah I’m awesome! I
think a lot concerning those topics that will change my future.
Since I was a
kid, I want to be super cool just like my mom. She was a great learner and a
splendid teacher/lecturer. If she is a comic character, she would be in Gokusen
or Great Teacher Onizuka. But some people looked down on her just because of
her unsuccessful marriage. It was not her fault getting married to a cheater.
But my mom is
also one of the early-married women. She wore a wedding dress in her 23rd,
getting my sis the next year and finally I was born in the next 2 years. Then
she was single again. I have no problems growing up without a father, I don’t
even think he deserve to touch me. I once called myself an abandoned daughter
as I have never experienced any fatherly moments with him. It goes different
with my sis though.
See, this is
what going on in the society. It is real. Princessly thinking young women might
not realize it. They only could imagine a romantic life when they got married
early just like the totally-a-failure movie Twilight. The whole wedding things
scared me although I am in a serious relationship for over 2 years. Reality is
no fantasy.
On top of that, I
was a little upset about losing two or three friends or relatives after they
became someone’s wife. They got married too early and I hated the idea. We
can’t have fun together anymore. They are no longer those who I happened to
know before. They changed. A lot. Then I wondered what if I’ll be just like
them as soon as I decided to get married? What if I change too? What if I’m not
me anymore? It is not about if the guy is the one in a million; it is in point
of fact about me.
After a few
minutes of silence, I stopped thinking regarding to the issue of marriage.
There are more roads to be taken in the future. I will start to open my mind
about it again but not too soon. I do admit I hate the idea of getting married
too early but maybe those people have their own reasons. Just stop using “in
the name of Allah” or “for Islamic reason” if you’re not really meant it.
Well, feel free
to give me any feedback. Ciao for now~! (^_^)/
